Healing Spiritual Imbalances

What is the lesson in compassion when one takes better care of others than they take care of themselves, even when they recognize that they are doing it and still don't change.

Dearest Pat,

In the souls long journey that moves from the state of Oneness with All, into the temporary human experience of existing as a separate and unique being, there is the opportunity for much profound learning and growth. There are also within this journey, times where a trauma may be experienced that feels overwhelming for the person to deal with. This causes the person to close down portions of themselves for a period of time in order to heal.

Some traumas can run deeply and may remain unconscious until the time that the soul is ready and able to complete the full healing process. It is for this reason that so many human behaviors that seem obviously unhealthy or self-destructive continue to be perpetuated. At times it may seem to the person who is in the grip of this energy pattern, that the behaviors have an unfortunate life of their own. This experience can cause much frustration, depression and despair for the individuals concerned, because it appears that one is out of control of ones own behavior.

It is important to understand that all human beings are souls, and that when the human being experiences a trauma, this energy pattern remains within the soul memory and the cellular memory of the body until it has been able to be fully processed and released. Some traumas are so deep that healing is not complete within one lifetime. When this happens, the cellular memories will remain in the energy body, available in the next lifetime so that healing can continue until it has been completed.

It is not important in this situation to worry about what traumas may have happened, or which lifetime they occurred in, but rather to have an understanding than you are a vastly larger and more magnificent being that you realize. There are levels and stages of self-awareness, and all that needs to happen for healing within you is present and available now. Whatever pain of the past that needs to surface, will rise into consciousness and present itself for healing when you are ready. The greater light present on the Earth now has increased the potential for deep and profound healing in much shorter time frames, and this blessing is available to you now.

When a person is involved with helping others, but is unable or unwilling to care for themselves, this generally indicates a deep need for forgiveness. The natural love that radiates in the heart of the helper wants to reach out and share and to be of service to others. This natural impulse, which comes from the light of the soul, becomes imbalanced when this same love, generosity and kindness becomes unable to be extended towards ones own self. When love is not able to be received, this sets up a situation of perpetual hunger. This rejection of love is painful, and creates a deep emptiness. The person may attempt to fill this emptiness through more helping activities or even through addictive patterns.

What is needed in this situation is first for the person involved to fully acknowledge this state of imbalance, and the consequences it creates, with love and free from self judgment. Judgment, self blame, and self accusation will simply further inflame the imbalanced energy pattern. A simple and loving acknowledgement. Secondly, it is essential that the person acknowledge that they are not able to change this behavior on their own. This takes great courage, for one of the most difficult experiences for human beings to face is that of helplessness.

These two steps, which are known in many spiritual self help groups, begin to open the doorway for a true and deep healing of this seemingly intractable behavior. It is not necessary to undergo extensive analysis, past life regressions or other past-oriented therapies in order for this pattern to fully heal. All within you that is ready for healing will present itself to you in your consciousness at the right time.

What is necessary for healing in this area, after the full acknowledgement has taken place of this imbalance, is to honestly and truthfully examine your level of motivation to change this pattern. Your inner truth, with love, and free from judgment, will tell you whether now is the time to undertake the journey of self transformation that will free you.

If the answer is "no", that you are not ready, you can pray to become ready. If the answer is "yes" and you are ready sincerely to transform this energy pattern, then the next step is to pray for guidance, to be led to the spiritual and transformational supports that can assist you. There are now abundant spiritual and transformational supports available to assist all those who wish to be freed from limiting behavior and thought patterns. Ask for guidance and listen, follow your heart and the principle of vibrational resonance will lead you to those souls that can support your journey to freedom and the true expression of your soul's most precious gifts. With all love and blessings, Amen.

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