Question About Judgments in Relationship

by Sharon Birch
(Adams, MA)

I was in a relationship with one man from age 16 - 42 (married for 20 of those 26 yrs). It is all I know. He was emotionally distant. I now am 44 and in a new relationship with a man who is very loving, giving, talks about his feelings, loves spending time with me, etc. etc. I love being with him, but my judgments about him are really messing me up!! I can't stop thinking about how he doesn't make much money, he is not intellectually stimulating, etc. I'm so confused!